Thursday, April 30, 2009

Slaves of our own ego.......

You know, how we glorify ourselves, all the time? Really, we are the slaves of our own ego..We never see beyond us....Stoneblinds, in real terms !! When we introspect and look back, we start thinking " Oh, I screwed that situation big time", but seriously, there are thousands of people who have screwed majestically( couldn't find a better word !) and still managed to get back on track, funny thing is, we even glorify our act of screwing and how " I " did it or " how it happened to ME!!! "

The reality, what I believe, is -" The more we get personal, the more we get general". There are thousands and thousands of people who experience the same situations as we do, just that we don't know that this happens to everyone, and start either blaming or gloryfying ourselves.

We get an " A" and start praising ourselves," Oh, I am good......", buddy, look around, people get straight A's in each subject for consecutive years !!!!!! We boast about our poster presentation which went really well, but forget one minute detail, there was someone better who grabbed the prize !!! Oh, it works other way around also...there are moments when we feel ashamed of ourselves....without knowing that other people have same conflicts..momentarily big and important, after giving a thought-futile !!!! Here are few examples...

We are on a dinner table and we don't know how to eat with knife and fork !!!! We go " I am the dumbest person of all", if we think again, lots of people have same difficulty !!!! Just matter of time, we'll learn it, buddy, just learn it, and there's always a first time !!!! They serve us tea in cup and saucer, and we are engrossed in deep thinking, " would it look better if I drink it in saucer?" oh hell, for what, do u think they provided the saucer?" We are giving an oral examination and forget the answer just when the question is asked.....the same answer we have on tip of our tongue otherwise !!!!! or " oh, I can't dance that well..." well, may be we can't and may be we can't in front of people, but atleast we can start enjoying, instead of having pressing thoughts of " can't dance in otherwise enjoyable party !!!! " We just have to get over ourselves at times........................

We give far more importance to the situations and to ourselves......in reality, everyone goes through the same phase sometime or other.....It all depends on how easy and hard we are on ourselves, after analysing the depth of the situation, if at all there's any !!!! If we stop putting " I" before every situation, I think, it's easier to live and understand and learn...........

Different perceptions !!!!

People think " I am smart ", we think " We are smarter ", in reality, everyone fooling oneself !!!!

People think, " Oh, I play it cool", we think, " Leave it, I understand ur tricks", the question in reality, " Why are we playing games in first place ??" Both ends at loss, practically.

We think " We are betrayed", People say " I have a justification, u just misunderstood it all", in reality, both ends lack trust and commitment ( not generalizing for all situations !!!)

We " How could u", People " Why can't we ?" in reality, either both ends correct or both ends wrong, Think about white flag........

We think " This exam is too hard ", people ( examiners !) " This is the easiest exam ever conducted ", in reality, we didn't study hard, people expected too high !!!

We " I am too low to smile ", people " Oh, that fellow just pretends, after all, he lacks nothing, what shall he crave about? Attention seeker, nothing else." well, in reality, u don't get each other....don't just open ur heart to everyone.....

Isn'i it funny to see different perceptions at the same time? Same situation, different views.....not every time, what we communicate gets conveyed with exact meaning......communication gap is a bottomless pit.....

I am not trying to find any solution here or ask " Why does it happen", it's just that it's too funny to observe different views at the same time !!!! Life is easy and hard, at the same time.....strange, funny.....and as real as it gets !!!! Have fun, take it easy, keep ur cool and smile.....That's it !!!!